How To Happy Happy Joy Joy

Ever heard of 'The Only Way Out is In?" Meaning when you feel crap, and you want to feel good again and not only that you want to feel good most of the time. Then how?

The Only way out is In is best understood when we look at it from this perspective first. How do you feel when the person you respect and love tells you things like: I don't like it when you are so loud, and I actually find you way to sensitive, why do you have to cry about nothing all the time? And that hair of yours what's up with that? Oh and don't you think it's time you started to exercise a bit more, your ass is growing out of proportion?

Would you like hanging out with this person? What about your pet? How does for instance your dog react when you're being grumpy and slightly unhinged? Tale wagging? Or crouched and scared?

This is clearly to see isn't it, it is everything but nourishing. While this is what most of us do to ourselves all day every day.  We judge ourselves (and others) we nag to ourselves (and others) we're horrible on the road, in the supermarket etc. etc. It doesn't make us wrong, it makes us being hard to be with. First and foremost for ourselves and that extends to others.

And then we hit that breaking point, and we're sick and tired of being sick and tired. And THAT's when the fun begins.

We understand now that our words aren't descriptive, words are creative. Words don't go out into the void, Words are Spells. We're casting spells all day everyday. 

Why do you think the greats in physical and not in physical form all have some way of conveying that

"Our Words are Our Wands." - Florence Scovel Shinn

Now that I have your attention allow me to give you the secret to change the inner narrative to one that is loving and easy. Because believe you me, I was pretty good at shitty inner self talk. And everything reflected that. From my body, to my fitness, to my flexibility level - about as flexible as an oak tree trunk - to my relationships.

So how thn?

First you start with allowing all these voices to speak up without pushing them down. We all have all kinds of archetypes within ourselves; Victim, Queen, Princess, Perpetrator, Child, Parent, etc etc. 

Don't exile them. Integrate them. It is not about abandoning them. It is about allowing them all. 

The trick is; you do not allow them to give you a powerpoint presentation arguing for their limitations. As the saying goes; "Argue for your limitations and they're yours." 

Did you know, and again I speak from experience, that when you stop judging yourself for whatever it is that you're judging yourself for. When you tremble through it, hold yourself through it, love yourself through it, cry and scream and punch a pillow yourself through it … You WILL start to have so much more compassion for others too.

You cannot give anyone, what you do not have. Or in other words you cannot give others what you cannot give to yourself. It is as simple as that.So get to work. 

Oxygen mask on first before you try to "fix" others. And you know what's magical? Others change automatically when you do. But that is a subject for another post.

See you in the next.

A Fit Mind, Creates a Beautiful Body and an Epic Life

Much Love.

Victoria-Monique